{"id":58630,"date":"2026-08-07T10:00:40","date_gmt":"2026-08-07T08:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/necessities.info\/?p=58630"},"modified":"2026-08-07T10:00:41","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T08:00:41","slug":"vad-ar-det-basta-radet-du-nagonsin-har-fatt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/necessities.info\/index.php\/2026\/08\/07\/vad-ar-det-basta-radet-du-nagonsin-har-fatt\/","title":{"rendered":"Vad \u00e4r det b\u00e4sta r\u00e5det du n\u00e5gonsin har f\u00e5tt?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Det kom inte fr\u00e5n n\u00e5gon guru p\u00e5 ett berg. Inte fr\u00e5n en sj\u00e4lvhj\u00e4lpsbok med guldembossad titel. Det kom p\u00e5 ett k\u00f6k, \u00f6ver en kopp kaffe som st\u00e5tt lite f\u00f6r l\u00e4nge, fr\u00e5n n\u00e5gon som k\u00e4nde mig b\u00e4ttre \u00e4n jag ville erk\u00e4nna just d\u00e5.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

”Var sn\u00e4ll mot dig sj\u00e4lv. Var sn\u00e4ll mot andra. Men ta inte skit.”<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tre korta meningar. \u00c4nd\u00e5 tar det ett helt liv att l\u00e4ra sig vad de egentligen betyder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Den f\u00f6rsta: Var sn\u00e4ll mot dig sj\u00e4lv<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Det h\u00e4r \u00e4r den sv\u00e5raste. Vi pratar s\u00e5 g\u00e4rna om selfcare numera \u2014 ansiktsmasker och bubblebad och ”ta en stund f\u00f6r dig sj\u00e4lv”. Men att vara sn\u00e4ll mot sig sj\u00e4lv \u00e4r inte en ansiktsmask. Det \u00e4r att sluta prata om sig sj\u00e4lv p\u00e5 ett s\u00e4tt man aldrig skulle prata om sin v\u00e4rsta fiende, \u00e4n mindre sin b\u00e4sta v\u00e4n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jag minns en h\u00f6st n\u00e4r allt i tr\u00e4dg\u00e5rden gick \u00e5t skogen. Bladm\u00f6gel p\u00e5 tomaterna, sniglaran \u00e5t upp sallaten, och jag stod d\u00e4r med h\u00e4nderna fulla av murken basilika och sa till mig sj\u00e4lv att jag var v\u00e4rdel\u00f6soch att odla kanske inte var n\u00e5got f\u00f6r mig. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Det var d\u00e5 jag t\u00e4nkte p\u00e5 de d\u00e4r orden. Och t\u00e4nkte: skulle jag s\u00e4ga det h\u00e4r till en v\u00e4n? Skulle jag s\u00e4ga \u00e5t henne att hon var v\u00e4rdel\u00f6s f\u00f6r att det blev bladm\u00f6gel? Aldrig i livet. Jag skulle ge henne en kram och en kopp te och s\u00e4ga att det finns nytt fr\u00f6 till v\u00e5ren.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e5 varf\u00f6r inte s\u00e4ga det till mig sj\u00e4lv?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Den andra: Var sn\u00e4ll mot andra<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Den h\u00e4r \u00e4r l\u00e4ttare, tycker man. Tills man m\u00f6ter n\u00e5gon som \u00e4r irriterande i kassak\u00f6n. Eller granne som klipper gr\u00e4set klockan sju en s\u00f6ndagsmorgon. Eller den d\u00e4r personen p\u00e5 n\u00e4tet som har helt fel om allt och dessutom \u00e4r otrevlig.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men sn\u00e4llhet \u00e4r inte samma sak som att vara trevlig. Sn\u00e4llhet \u00e4r att komma ih\u00e5g att man inte vet vad den andra b\u00e4r p\u00e5. Att grannen kanske inte har sovit. Att personen i kassan kanske precis f\u00e5tt ett samtal hon inte ville ha.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sn\u00e4llhet kostar n\u00e4stan ingenting. Avsaknaden av den kostar allt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Den tredje: Men ta inte skit<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Och h\u00e4r \u00e4r det jag \u00e4lskar r\u00e5det. F\u00f6r det hade varit s\u00e5 l\u00e4tt att stanna vid de tv\u00e5 f\u00f6rsta meningarna och l\u00e5ta det bli en plattityd. En lappar med blomtypografi p\u00e5 Pinterest. ”Var sn\u00e4ll, sprid gl\u00e4dje, lev \u00e4lska skratta.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men det tredje till\u00e4gget g\u00f6r det till n\u00e5got helt annat. Det s\u00e4ger: sn\u00e4llhet \u00e4r inte svaghet. Sn\u00e4llhet \u00e4r inte att s\u00e4ga ja till allt, att l\u00e5ta folk kliva p\u00e5 en, att tyst finna sig i saker som inte \u00e4r okej.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Man kan vara sn\u00e4ll och \u00e4nd\u00e5 s\u00e4tta en gr\u00e4ns. Man kan vara sn\u00e4ll och \u00e4nd\u00e5 s\u00e4ga nej. Man kan vara sn\u00e4ll och \u00e4nd\u00e5 g\u00e5 d\u00e4rifr\u00e5n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Det \u00e4r egentligen det modigaste som finns: att vara mjuk d\u00e4r det beh\u00f6vs och h\u00e5rd d\u00e4r det beh\u00f6vs, och att veta skillnaden.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Det kom inte fr\u00e5n n\u00e5gon guru p\u00e5 ett berg. Inte fr\u00e5n en sj\u00e4lvhj\u00e4lpsbok med guldembossad titel. Det kom p\u00e5 ett k\u00f6k, \u00f6ver en kopp kaffe som st\u00e5tt lite f\u00f6r l\u00e4nge, fr\u00e5n n\u00e5gon som k\u00e4nde mig b\u00e4ttre \u00e4n jag ville erk\u00e4nna just d\u00e5. ”Var sn\u00e4ll mot dig sj\u00e4lv. Var sn\u00e4ll mot andra. Men ta inte skit.” … <\/p>\n

\u2665 L\u00e4s mer \u2665 <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":58631,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advgb_blocks_editor_width":"","advgb_blocks_columns_visual_guide":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":false,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[6271],"tags":[6268,6300],"class_list":["post-58630","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-skrivutmaningar","tag-dailyprompt","tag-dailyprompt-2846"],"author_meta":{"display_name":"Ingalill Sj\u00f6gren","author_link":"https:\/\/necessities.info\/author\/nyadmin\/"},"featured_img":"https:\/\/necessities.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/Ta-ingen-skit-200x300.png","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/necessities.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/Ta-ingen-skit.png","coauthors":[],"tax_additional":{"categories":{"linked":["Skrivutmaningar<\/a>"],"unlinked":["Skrivutmaningar<\/span>"]},"tags":{"linked":["dailyprompt<\/a>","dailyprompt-2846<\/a>"],"unlinked":["dailyprompt<\/span>","dailyprompt-2846<\/span>"]}},"comment_count":"0","relative_dates":{"created":"Publicerad 21 timmar sedan","modified":"Uppdaterad 21 timmar sedan"},"absolute_dates":{"created":"Publicerat den 7 augusti 2026","modified":"Uppdaterad den 7 augusti 2026"},"absolute_dates_time":{"created":"Publicerat den 7 augusti 2026 10:00","modified":"Uppdaterad den 7 augusti 2026 10:00"},"featured_img_caption":"","series_order":"","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":58364,"url":"https:\/\/necessities.info\/index.php\/2026\/07\/13\/vilken-bok-har-du-last-mer-an-nagon-annan\/","url_meta":{"origin":58630,"position":0},"title":"Vilken bok har du l\u00e4st mer \u00e4n n\u00e5gon annan?","author":"Ingalill Sj\u00f6gren","date":"13 juli 2026","format":false,"excerpt":"Den bok jag har l\u00e4st fler g\u00e5nger \u00e4n n\u00e5gon annan \u00e4r Den hemlighetsfulla \u00f6n av Jules Verne. 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